Can we love we?

How you view yourself is possibly the most important thing you could ever do. Valuing yourself is probably the greatest step any person could take in the right direction. How you perceive yourself is the very essence of what holds you together. It determines your past. Your present and your future.
Think about this. Think of someone who has no love for themselves. To them...they are ugly, fat, worthless, bony, wrinkled, unattractive, unworthy of love. To them..they are helpless, demotivated, and uninspiring. Think on this. If a person really thinks of him or her self in this way..how will they allow other people to treat them. Something my grandmother told me today really stuck out to me...she said .."Before your mama got shot she was a beautiful women, she had long beautiful curls with flawless skin and a very shapely body, but she didn't think so." My mother allowed someone to beat her and call her names. The emotional and physical abuse inflicted by ex boyfriends was totally unacceptable, but to her..it was well deserved. To her she was worthless, unattractive, and lower than earth and no one could convince her otherwise. Her boyfriend even went so far as to shoot her in the head. The ultimate indication of someone who has no love or compassion for another. This was her BOYFRIEND. How ridiculous is that? What I am trying to say is before we decide to get in relationships with people we really and truly have to evaluate how we feel about ourselves. How far will you allow someone to go before it is enough? When is enough enough? When does a situation become unacceptable? If you value who you are as a person you will not allow someone to beat you down verbally or physically. I think my greatest fear in life is becoming someone who allows others to take control of my life. Allowing a situation to hold me stagnant and immobile. I never want to live that way. I want to do whats best for me. I want to grow and mature. Be strong and self assured. I dont want to feel like I need a man to hold me up financially or make me happy. I have to be happy with me first. in love..You will expect nothing short of greatness. You will maintain you dignity and integrity. You will not self degrade. You will not sell yourself short. You will live life. Laugh. Breathe. enjoy the person living in your own skin. But most of all...you will Dream. Please.. for your own sake..Dream.